I've asked this question so many times in my life. Lord why did this happen? Why did that happen? Why did my father pass away when I was so young? Why didn't I get the job? Why did my man cheat on me? Why, why, why?
My latest why question is... Why hasn't my business taken off yet? I've taken the leap, started my business, walked away from my well established career... Why am I not seeing fruit?
I'm not going to lie, I become weary in well doing all the time.
- Going back and forth to Pop-up shops
- Carrying over 100 pounds of clothing 2 blocks down Canal street in the SOHO district of NYC
- Blogging weekly, sending emails, being active on social media, investing hundreds, maybe thousands in Ads and SEO. Why haven't sales picked up??
During these struggles I realize I could give up so many times. Somehow I keep going, nevertheless, that one persistent question IS Why?
In times of reflection on this very question (Why?), I was led to discover that:
We live in an age of instant gratification. It has clearly had it's effect on me. To be honest, I'm only about 3 months in to my business launch and I've already mentally quit about 3-4 times. Instead of trying to force yourself to work super hard and figure it all out on your own just keep putting one foot in front of the other. That is all you can do anyway.
2. If you keep your eyes on the prize; I mean really focus on the prize, you'll make it to the end.
In an analytics driven World, we are so driven to look at the stats. The stats will only discourage you and set your sights on the lack or the impossibilities.
Instead, Believe in the possibilities.
You have breath in your lungs, your eyesight clearly works (if you're reading this), and your fingers must too. In that case, there are so many possibilities. Focus your attention on all of those.
How many times have you moaned and groaned in the midst of your situation only to look back and realize that that very situation may be one of the most meaningful times of your life.
For example, when I was in school (college), it was hard. I mean there were days I didn't have gas in my car. I had to shop at the 99cents store for groceries. Many times I just had little to no money at all. I got through it, and now I look back to those times with so much joy. It was fun and I am so glad the Lord brought me through it. Let's try to be and stay present and embrace right now- it won't last forever.
After all, All we have is NOW!
4. Remember that your time WILL COME... if you keep going.
Back to college, had I given up during school I would have never made it to my graduation. If I would have let a low gas tank, or spoiled veggies get in the way of my promise, my destiny... I wouldn't have my degree or even have come this far today. I persevered, and met my destiny. The testing of your faith produces perseverance.
5. Lastly, Remember, it's all a part of the process.
Romans 8:17 Now if we are children, then we are heirs--heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.
Let's be real. Your struggle makes your story so much juicier, doesn't it? It makes you human, relatable, it keeps you humble. Your story is your story. Every time you arise from your struggle you'll be like a Phoenix, rising from the ashes. It'll be so cool. You'll be triumphant.
Nobody cheers for the goody two shoes whose parents just gave them everything. We root for the underdogs of life who come back from bankruptcy, divorce, and failure in general. Your story inspires people. So keep going.
Above all else, choose joy. We are our biggest enemies. We are our biggest critics. Truthfully, if we just get out of our own heads we'd probably be OK. The easy way is to be negative. Abusing yourself. Putting yourself down for your "failures." Fight those horrible thoughts and look for the light. God loves you, he believes in you, and if He is for you than WHO in this World can be against you???
Choose light, and choose happiness, your situation could be so much worse. I believe in you, and I know you CAN! Just keep swimmin.